Of course you get into places where you feel helpless, in despair, or like you're never going to get there.
So let's get honest for a second ~ I have two questions for you to consider.
1) Do you know where "there" is? Do you have a clear vision of what you want to have in your life, from money to health to relationship to kids to living room couch and curtains?
2) Are you willing to shift into seeing how the essence of those things is already beginning to come to you, even if they don't look like your vision board?
Here's the thing: I was pushing against everything ~ my parenting, my husband, my work, my home ~ just pushing against it all because it wasn't exactly how I wanted it to be.
Can you relate? To the "nothing is right!" mentality?
I pushed against it all so hard that I couldn't even access real gratitude for things like running water, my daughter's health, and my beautiful lakeside cottage.
Pushing will do that to you. Pushing, trying, and striving against "what is" builds a wall ~ it keeps out the bad, but it also keeps out the good. A wall by any other name is still a wall. It's built to keep things out.
Pushing, trying, and striving against "what is" build walls. (You can click to tweet that)
How willing are you to shift into inviting the essence of what you want, right now?
How willing are you to look at your relationship and say, "The essence of what I want is a deep, loving intimate relationship. And in my partner, I see that s/he loves me deeply because s/he changes my windshield wiper fluid and says I love you before s/he gets off the phone, every time".
How willing are you to overlook that everything else s/he does isn't so perfect in your eyes?
How willing are you to admit that you're pushing the good out of your life, at the same time that you're trying to push out the undesirable parts?
How willing are you to look at your life + biz with new eyes, release all the pushing, and invite the essence of what you want right now?
Focusing on what needs to change
invites more things that need to change.
You're always winning the game you're playing ~
are you playing the "Woe is me" game?
Then you're inviting more woe.
Look, , I'm not saying it's easy to put your attention where things are already joyful and easeful. I'm not saying to Pollyanna your way through, ignoring all the stuff that absolutely deserves to change.
I'm only saying there's this one life, see, and we have the chance to invite the essence of what we desire right now.
You want a beautiful English garden in your backyard but you live on a rock? Bring flowers into your home, plant a succulent rock garden, go on botanical house tours. You can have what you want from that garden today, while you work towards claiming your own.
You want an intimate, loving relationship but you don't have a partner right now and dating has been a nightmare? What do you want from that loving relationship ~ security? Someone to lean on, tell your day to? Where can you create intimacy right now?
You've got to invite what you want to the party, or it's not going to come.
The bottom line, , is this: If you can't create the feelings you want now, there's no outer change that will bring you what you want.
I'm telling you this because I care, and because I deeply believe that from freedom and joy comes the life of our dreams.
Join me on Facebook and tell me: What is the essence of what you want in your life? Not the things, the feelings. Ease? Serenity? Beauty? Excitement?