GOD I have to tell you I look at all these promises and offers across the internet and I. Am. Exhausted. by the subtle implication that if I'm not on fire 24/7, that there's something a little "less" about me.
Don't get me wrong, you will find early sales pages of mine promoting the same kind of relentless on purpose living including skytop views, tons of self-care, mountain vistas, an massive office overlooking the ocean while getting paid seven figures to work 4 hours a week or else you're not "on purpose" and "living the dream life"...
So let's get a few things clear.
There's a spectrum of "life" to be lived, right?
Let's talk about what we mean by "life" for a second can we? Get a little clarity?
We get up in the morning, do our thing. Maybe go about our work in this world, whether a vocation outside of the home, raising a family, smelling the daisies, creating a business... we do some of that work at some time. We eat, poop, sleep. Drink some beverages.
Intermittently or maybe as part of every day, maybe we travel here and there ~ maybe globally, maybe day trips. We see a bit of the world. We drive or take the subway or fly. We experience transportation. Maybe we don't. Maybe we walk, wheel, or crawl.
We see friends, we see family. We meet strangers, they stay strangers, or maybe they become acquaintances.
We see about the care of our dwellings.
We watch some TV, take in entertainment, maybe argue with those friends and family about what's really entertaining. We love our partners, leave our partners, we start new, or we push through.
Maybe we do none of these. Maybe we do all of them.
This is the stuff of "life".
Then there's a snapshot. On the mountaintop. Series after series of people, mostly alone, enjoying some kind of massively scenic view, or arms thrown to the air in rapture and gratitude, or some other image that symbolizes a really significant climb.
(Oh, and of course mostly white women doing these things.)
What does "life on purpose" have to do with eating, sleeping, pooping, and having tea? Vistas?
I kind of think we're actually selling LESS of stuff. LESS of sweating the small stuff. LESS of arguing over sh!t we're NEVER going to remember on our deathbeds. LESS of living in blame.
Combined with MORE of those snapshots strung together that really make you so so happy.
Put it all together and what do you get?
The same life journey we're all one. Making satisfaction and fulfillment more, making mad and sad less.
And someday when enough of those snapshots are all strung together, then you're on the mountain's top day after day, I guess.
Me? I'm happy with enough snapshots strung together to make it worth my while to put my grateful feet on the ground in the morning, look at the sweet grumpy face of my daughter, receive a kiss from my husband headed out the door, set my mind to coffee and words, and to live in the beautiful of my right now, while I hunt down more ways to bring more of those snapshots into my life.
What's my rant? Just that I think sometimes we're all trying to out-offer the next exuberantly over the top picture...
and the byproduct is that as an industry we might be creating a little bit of "not-enough"ness, overall.
What kinds of sales images could really speak to the day to day!?
To me, connecting. Images of connecting with my family in real and joyful, tech-free ways. Images of reading, writing, of a walk in the woods with a Nikon strapped across my back. Images of the sweet moments spent in the rumpled bed meditating with my little strewn across my lap.
This is the stuff of my life.
What's the stuff of yours?