I graduated coaching school like a green-eyed monster.
I wanted a powerful elevator speech.
I wanted to be clear on my target market.
I wanted to deliver massive transformation.
So I did what I do best: set about to learn EVERYTHING I could about building a business. I listened to tele seminars, free trainings, list-building trainings. I sent an email to everyone I know announcing my new career.
I absorbed tons of information, learned about creating a signature system, attracting high end clients, nailing my niche, and writing sizzling copy.
The problem was: I couldn't create a signature system, attract clients, or write copy when I had no idea what my coaching magic would be.
None of the amazing programs out there would have benefitted me, because I simply did not have enough experience yet.
I would have spent thousands of dollars on conjecture.
So instead, I decided to do a grand experiment to get clear on my coaching magic.
In just a few months, I found a way to work with as many clients as I possibly could, without making myself insane. I got super creative, went for it with gusto, and learned
Now, I know exactly what to say to people when they ask "So, what do you do?"
People have been asking me, "How do I get clear on my niche?" or "How can I be an authentic coach?"
I tell them: PLAY.
PLAY, PLAY, PLAY.
1) Get in the field of possibilities. Try everything. Coach in groups. Coach everyone who asks you to coach them. Deliver your services for free, for fee, for pay-want-you-can.
2) Join Facebook groups and use your coaching tools in the groups without announcing it. People love to be acknowledged and validated, they love empowering questions, no matter WHAT the topic of the group is.
Serve anyone who will let you. If a friend has a problem, ask if you can put your coaching hat on.
If you have a day job and there are corporate issues or small business issues, put your coaching hat on.
If you have a kid, coach instead of yelling.
If you serve and if you play, you WILL discover what you do naturally and brilliantly. You'll discover WHO is receptive to it... and you'll discover the best way that you get results!
I used to dread the idea of networking meetings, or the moment at family functions when people would ask me, "So how's the coaching going?" I always felt like I had to lie, or that I was a failure. I thought if I just hung out my shingle as a life coach, word of mouth would carry me into a sea of success.
My green eyed monster is at rest now. I know what my magic is, I know I've helped facilitate massive transformation, and I know I can do it again and again and again. Now, nothing can stop me! I confidently step into every coaching situation thrown my way, absolutely sure I can handle it.
Nothing could have brought me that feeling except for experience. Experience in really tough situations that I managed with grace and mad coaching. Experience receiving thank you emails and messages from the hearts of my clients, thanking me for facilitating what others had failed at: massive transformation.
Experience with all kinds of clients - magic and otherwise - that taught me that people who don't benefit from my coaching aren't ready to step up to my coaching. Maybe they could step up to someone else's, but they're not my magic client.
The greatest joy in coaching is the many, many moments that bring me down to my knees in gratitude that I get to do this "work". I am so blessed.
Are you a coach or coach in training, and you're ready to hit the ground but don't have the confidence or experience? Join me and commit to playing in the field of possibilities to discover your coaching brilliance! Where Play is Serious Business.
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