So, have a look at google images.
Type in "working mother".
Did you get the same results I did?
Almost without exception, women on a cell or a laptop, with a baby beside her/on her lap/close by.
Grinning like "OMG this is the most fun SPORT I ever did! I went out there and gave it 110% and I got this great job and kid AND i look perfectly put together, not a hair out of place. I'm LOVING this!"
Even the lady IN THE SUIT on the CELL with the LAUNDRY BASKET and the TODDER ON HER HIP is like, serenely listening to the person on the phone.
Is this what multitasking is supposed to look like?
Before I sorted out my values and priorities with my life coach, I feel like I was nagging, yelling, losing sleep, and disheveled. My career ambition, love of my child, and duty to my husband (never mind being a friend and a human being and a daughter and...) were in constant conflict.
There were some pretty dark days, and I don't think I've EVER done laundry in a suit.
I don't even think I've bought a suit to fit my post-baby body. Thankfully in my field, "business casual" can mean jeans without stains. Or dark wash jeans with stains.
These days I am smiling a lot more, but not because I'm multitasking. It's because in working with a life coach (yes, life coaches have life coaches!), I discovered some important things:
1) It's the quality of the moment that matters. Multitasking makes time fly and then we're left wishing for more hours in the day.
2) I don't have to drive the bus. But if I want to stop driving the bus, I have to communicate with my partner. Clearly, with big girl words. Repeatedly.
3) Big changes come in small doses. To get to a completely new mindset, to be able to inspire one in my husband, and to then start tacking the big things that make big impact... little things had to pave the way.
4) Knowing is half the battle. Getting extremely, extremely laser focused on my values, priorities, and vision was half of the battle towards getting the life of my dreams. But it took serious nitty gritty, call me on my BS, no excuses, exorcising the Voices of the Past kind of work to get there.
5) I did great. Coaching also helped me discover that with all I do, I do it pretty damnn well. And that I'm a terrific example to my little one.
And to me, that is the cake, the icing, and the silver platter.