Obviously, vacation doesn't suck!! I was having this whole "Oh-I'm-going-to-an-island-in-Maine-to-unplug" high and mighty thing... then I got to this amazing island in Maine to discover the cottage is outfitted with WiFi. I also feel like radically unplugging cuts me off from a lot of my creative source, too - photography research, blogging/writing, sharing every dropped crumb of toddler sandwich with you guys....
Along the same lines, I'm noticing how much easier it is for me to be my best mama self here. And also how much easier it is for DD Bird to be her best toddler self. I've been trying to figure out some of the elements that make us our best duo so I can bring them back to real life. And here is what I've figured out.
7) We have a village. My mom and dad and brother and sister and future sister-in-law are all on the island too - so I am not "on" 100% of the day. This leaves me lots of peace of mind and time to connect with everyone or even just complete a task like making a PB&J without having to stop 856 times.
6) I have so much me-time, I'm starting to feel like me again. I somehow have the time to create, play with felt tip markers, walk, read, blog/write, podcast, and generally daydream to my heart's content. This makes me a very, very soul nourished person with lots and lots and LOTS of patience and giving-ness.
5) We're with our whole family and DD Bird is just better behaved around her grandparents and aunties and uncles. So am I. I think this is a known and accepted fact: Children always behave better for anyone who isn't Mom and Dad. Plus, we're all better behaved when there is a system of checks and balances.
4) There are enough hours in the day, and less fit into those hours. I am in the thick of launching a company and all the little tasks that come along with it, my husband is still running every day, we are cooking and straightening the cottage and making food for lots of people and line drying our clothes and taking loooong walks... and there's time for everything. This leads to tons less stress.
3) No one is bringing their baggage home from work/school. There is absolutely nothing on our minds except each other and where to drive the golf carts.
2) We are so well rested. We are going to bed late, but sleeping late and waking naturally in the morning, taking adequate naps, and eating delicious and healthfully. This makes for one delightfully tempered family overall. Our basic needs are beyond met - they're totally nourished. Food, shelter (you would not BELIEVE this place, holy Heaven on Earth, Batman!)
1) I think the #1 reason is... I have no clocks to punch. My biggest Bad Mama trigger is being on the clock - getting to school on time, fitting everything in before bedtime, fitting too many needs - hers and mine - into one night... the to-do-list versus time-in-day ratio often kills me, makes me impatient, quick-tempered, and less tolerant of things like having to give a direction a thousand times.
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