Can you see ManiaFace over there? Do you remember the freedom of getting behind the wheel of the car for the first time, "all by your own self?" That little face over there is basically the face of our Inner Child when we are given the reigns to our own lives. The Night Before Vacation. The First Car. The First Five Minutes in Swimmies All By Her Own Self.
So one of my darling besties and I were paddling around in the lake with ManiaFace up there, delighting in how...well... flat out manic my daughter was about her freedom in the water.
First of all, this has to do with Feel Good parenting because inside, I was freaking out but in the more-inside, like the core from which I parent, I felt great about it. I trusted my kid. I trusted the lifeguard. And I was about half a foot away the whole time. I wanted to hover, I worried about if other people were letting their 2 year olds swim around in a lake, swallowing buckets of boat water, I wanted to prevent all negative experiences ever including water up the nose, losing control momentarily and having that scary water moment, and her first break up. (Sorry, fast forwarding there). I know I have to let her be free and make mistakes so she can be free and be confident in herself and her abilities to swim (drive/date/climb a tree). So it felt good to me to let her be free. If it felt too icky, I would have trusted that she was not ready.
Secondly, my friend and I were trying to think of what used to give us Mania Face. Anything related to a beach or ocean still gives me Mania Face. Driving my beloved Mazda3 5-speed on a really good road with the windows open and some adolescent music blaring gives me Mania Face. Like, the stupid silly uncontrollable happy all over even in your belly button Mania. We got a little sad because we thought geeze, has it been this long since we had the reigns to our own lives, that kind of freedom? Then we got happy because we were having the best day ever at the lake, in the sun, splashing around.
When was the last time you got ManiaFace? When did you get it as a kid? Does freedom do it for you? How can you get some more ManiaFace?