Self-doubt. What an asshole.
Where do we GET it?!
If you're a parent or love any child, you know you DESPERATELY don't want them to have it.
But they're gonna get it, too.
Look at the continuum of our lives. We were babies, then toddlers, then school aged and onward...
When did the self-doubt get so insidious?
Was it as toddlers, when, to keep us safe, we were told "No?" As teenagers, when hormones a-ragin', we interpreted every side-eye glance as a judgment? In grade school, when cliques formed and we were left out?
Self-doubt. It's insidious like mold. You rip out the kitchen cabinet and there it is, in a big black sheet of horror all over your sheetrock. Under the grout, unwilling to budge no matter how much bleach you drown in it.
The only way is to bust out the utility knife and carve out the sheetrock, dig out the grout, rip up the floors.. whatever you have to do to get. it. out.
(Can you tell I've been through this with the mold?) And that until I tackle every. single. spore, it grows back furiously.
Self-doubt. It's so insidious that sometimes, we don't even notice that it's there until we call attention to it.
Self-doubt. Inner critic. Some call it the gremlin.
However you call it, call it something. Bring it to light.
Insist that it show its moldy little face. See it, recognize it, acknowledge its presence in your mind.
Who said it better than G.I Joe, that "Knowing is half the battle?"
Rip out the cabinets, tear out the grout, expose the self-doubt. Notice how it attaches silently to each thought, each action.
How it partners with regret to prove its point. How it thrives when you're tired, malnourished, when your well is dry.
How it lashes out at our partners, our children, our coworkers, our family. How it takes a stance of righteous indignation and calls forth drama, conflict, and victim thinking.
How is self-doubt ruling your life? Can you call it forward?
Once called to light, it shrivels and withers. Look it in the face and call it by name.
Let's blow up social media with a campaign to banish self-doubt! Imagine how much kinder we could all be, how we could free our brightness, creativity, love, exuberance, out-there-ness, and Presence! How much easier it would be to live into our beautiful, authentic, sweet selves....
Post on FB, Twitter, Instagram... how will you start to banish self doubt today? #nomoreselfdoubt