What IS intentional living?
What I think people mean by "intentional living" is feeling satisfied at the end of the day. Worry-free. Anxiety-free. They want to feel like their life was a buffet and they had a great meal.
As Thoreau so beautifully says:
"... I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. ... I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life..."
But how do we get there? How do we get to that "spartan" place of purpose, intention, and fulfillment?
The first step is attention to one's inner life. Intentional living is an inside-out job.
I want you to follow me here ~ because I'm going to give you a HUGE + simple strategy. It's not time consuming, it's not difficult, it doesn't even require action ~ but most people avoid doing this.
So, how can you get a barometer on your inner life so you can start your pursuit of intentional living?
You might not like the answer, but here it is. This is an irrefutable truth that I've seen a million times in myself and my clients. It's simple and can really suck to face.
Look at your outer world. It's a direct line to the health of you inner life. (click to tweet)
Are you in conflict a lot? Are you attracted to drama and negativity in your Facebook feed? What do you click on? What kind of personal interactions stick in your mind ~ positive ones, or negative ones? Do you fully absorb compliments or deflect them?
Your outer life is a reflection of your inner life. Pay close attention.
How much weight do you give criticism and feedback?
I can guarantee you that any critical comments that really, really piss you off or hurt your feelings... are mirrors of your own belief about yourself.
It's the honest truth that bringing awareness to your outer life ~ the things you're attracted to, both positive and negative ~ will have a huge impact on your inner life.
Simply bringing awareness to the things you're inviting into your consciousness ~ not even taking specific action ~ will have a dramatic impact on the peace and fulfillment in your inner life.
How do you do this? Very simply, keep a small notebook or a note in your phone app. Bring it around with you and make it your mission to notice the things that really push your buttons, the things that cause you to feel like you are NOT living an intentional life.
Simply write them down. Bring awareness to those moments that erode your inner life's well-being.
Come over to Facebook and share with me: What did you discover this week in your notebook, that is eroding your inner life and sabotaging your path of intentional living?