According to a recent New York Times/CBS poll, only a quarter of women with children under the age of 18 would choose to work full time, if money were no object.
But half of the women in the US with children under the age of 18 are working.
I can say that before I had a child, my goal was to continue to "lean in" and for my husband to be a stay at home dad.
Once I had the baby, I happened to be working part time in a local school district and it was an ideal lifestyle. Maybe it wasn't such a good thing that I started working mommy-hood with a taste of ideal life balance.
Since then, working full time ate me alive until I learned to make an empowered choice around it.
What is so important here is that:
Until I made an empowered choice around working full time, while still holding the dream of resuming a more flexible work-life schedule, I was completely stuck in the full time.
It wasn't until I completely released the pain around being a full time working mother that any space was made for solutions to the perceived problem.
Once I was able to release the guilt, get unapologetic and free of guilt around my work schedule, everything else opened up. Solutions poured in.
With a huge friction between the number of women who want to be working full time, and the number of women who "have" to be working full time, a huge paradigm problem around feminine leadership exists. The marketplace is now full of women who wish they were somewhere else.
Who can blame them? Motherhood can shift all your expectations and mindsets around career.
So we're one foot in the workplace, one foot at home, and in many cases, it's all suffering. When we're at work, we're guilty that someone else is raising the babies. When we're at home, we're guilty that we didn't stay late for the critical meeting or wondering why we are paying that student loan for the career we now resent.
In that state of mind, how can anyone move forward? How can anyone start to re-calibrate her life under that kind of stress and guilt?
What about those of us who want to keep climbing, achieving, leaning in to our careers for which we fought so hard, but society is telling us we are messing up the kids?
Whichever way you are boxed into an "unhappy" or less than ideal situation, the first step is to find a way to get authentically empowered around that situation.
Not blowing smoke up your own ass. That doesn't work for very long.
Until we are authentically empowered about our situations, all we can do is scramble to get away from them. (Click to tweet!) Which leads us straight back to the belly of the beast. One demanding job into another. One bad situation into a worst one.
I help my clients move forward while accepting where they are. Accepting where you are gives you the power to make the decisions that will truly change your life from the inside out.
What is one step you can take, today, towards looking at a less than ideal situation in a more empowered way?